When Geoff was first diagnosed with MS, it was a shock, it wasn’t what we expected at all. He had always been so active, and we just assumed the pain and fatigue was something relatively minor. Multiple sclerosis – that was not on our radar. I remember feeling disbelief and confusion. I knew very little about MS, what it was, what the impacts were or what it would mean. The moment we heard the diagnosis, I knew I had to dig deep, learn everything I could, and be strong for both of us.
The journey hasn’t been easy, it’s been one of the most challenging experiences of our lives. Life took a turn we didn’t expect, and we’ve found ourselves on a path we hadn’t planned. Life does do that from time to time. It has meant that we have had to adjust and adapt to the new normal, and we have done that.
From the moment we got married, we knew we’d be there for each other no matter what life threw at us. This was just another test of that promise. Closing down the business that we started together a year or so after his diagnosis was tough, but it was the right decision. Even in those hard moments, you either give in to it or move forward and we chose the latter. It wasn’t always easy, but we found strength together, as we always had.
Supporting Geoff has never felt like a burden, at times it’s been challenging but it’s just part of our life together. Some days he has energy, and we’ll go out to the park or meet friends. Other days, when he is having one of those not so good MS days, we stay in and rest. We’ve learned to take it day by day, never letting the difficult moments overshadow the good ones.
One of the biggest blessings for us has been the MS support groups. Attending them, for me, was about being there for Geoff, but also for me with the group knowledge. Over time, it became something I looked forward to as well. These people, they’re more than just a support group—they’ve become friends. We share our experiences, learn from each other, and laugh together. It’s a community, a reminder that we’re not alone.
To anyone supporting a loved one with MS, my advice is simple: don’t be afraid to reach out. Whether it’s joining a coffee group, calling the MS Society, or talking to someone who’s walked the same path, the support is there. It’s important to know that you’re not the only one navigating these challenges. There are so many people who understand exactly what you’re going through, and that can make all the difference.
In the end, Geoff and I are still a team, just like we’ve always been. We’ve adapted to the new normal, we’ve grown, and most importantly, we’ve continued to live our lives filled with love and support.
Chris Lord takes time to reflect on World MS day, on his diagnosis of multiple sclerosis. Read Chris' uplifting recount here.
